Two possible fathers, what do you do?

Two possible fathers, what do you do?

You might have ended your last relationship and started a new one right after, or maybe you had two flings in the same time period. Now you are pregnant and you do not have a clue who the father is. Maybe you do not know what to do right now. Here are some ways to work things out for you.

Rip off the band aid

The thing that makes most people angry is being lied to. So please do not keep it a secret. The stress it causes you is not good for the baby. It will hurt you and the baby even more in the long run. Not to mention the possible fathers. Their feelings towards the baby will grow more and more as well. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for everyone. It will be the hardest thing you will ever have to do, but just come clean to both men. The sooner you rip off the band aid, the faster you can move on with your life. Maybe you will have to apologize, or not if you did not do anything wrong. And that is all you can do.

Paternity test

You might want to find out who the biological father of your baby is. In that case DNA testing for paternity is a good option for both alleged fathers and for you. The men probably want to know as well if they are expecting a child soon. And it will help them moving on, once they know the child is not theirs. DNA testing will give them peace of mind. There are several ways to do a paternity test. There is prenatal test, which can easily be done with a blood sample of the mom and a cheek swab of the alleged father(s). Or you can wait until after the baby is being born and you can order a home paternity test.

Now you move on with your life

Once you have the result of the paternity test, you will have to talk to both fathers again. It is up to them to decide what they want to do. Keep in mind that it is not about you anymore. It is about the baby now. So try to move on as soon as possible. Make sure you focus on your future. Eat healthy and try to find a way to combine your job with your baby in the future. Make sure you have a cozy house and prepare the baby room. You can do it.

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